Are you tired of thinking about food and your body?
There is an overwhelming amount of information on diets and exercise and yet, you struggle to make permanent changes and feel good about your body. Spending your days thinking about calories, carbs, fats and how to burn them off is exhausting. Do you start everyday with the intention to be “good” only to have it unravel in a moment stress when you “treat” yourself, leading to ending the day with feelings of guilt and shame.
Maybe you feel:
- depressed and hopeless that things will ever change.
- embarrassed and ashamed that you struggle with food and your body.
Maybe you feel like giving up and tell yourself:
- you were just born this way.
- you hate exercise.
- you love food and are tired of denying yourself.
- you are too old to change or care how you look.
- you should focus on making other people (i.e. children, partner) happy and healthy.
- you don’t deserve to be happy and love your body.
Whether you over-eat or under-eat you know that this struggle takes up too much of your life. You may believe that it’s normal to be on a diet, and normal to be unhappy with your body.
Is This You?
Problems with Food and Dieting
- Do you think of food as “good” and “bad”?
- Are you constantly thinking about food and dieting?
- Do you try different ways of eating – organic, local, raw, vegan – hoping that this will fix your relationship with food?
- Do you look to see what others are eating and compare your choices to others?
- Do you feel guilty when you eat food you enjoy?
- Do engage in secretive eating or bingeing?
Life can be stressful and if emotional eating is the only way you have of coping. It can become a vicious circle of “treating” yourself, feeling guilt and self-hatred, then back to restrictive eating. Call it numbing, medicating, or stuffing …you know, or suspect, that you use food to deal with your feelings.
Problems with your Body and Self-Image
- Do you hate your body and feel self-loathing when you look in the mirror?
- Do you constantly compare your body and shape to others?
- Do you feel very guilty if you miss workouts or workout despite injuries?
- Do you feel anxious and depressed about aging.
- Do think that surgery is your only solution.
Living in a culture that exposes us to thousands of air-brushed images daily sends the message that you are “not good enough”. It’s impossible not to compare yourself to these pictures, leaving you feeling frustrated and ashamed of your body.
- you don’t pursue relationships because you don’t feel attractive or good enough.
- You don’t have close friends and keep people at a distance because you feel ashamed.
- You don’t enjoy celebrations with family and friends because of the focus on food.
- You don’t enjoy socializing because you are preoccupied with how you look.
- You are irritable with your partner and children.
- You see that your children, especially daughters, are becoming preoccupied with food and their weight.
Relationships, careers, and life goals – these are essential to feel satisfied and content in ones life. When you are stuck in unhealthy patterns and behaviours you know that these areas suffer.
Ending the Battle with Food and your Body
Whether you have a specific Eating Disorder or want to change unhealthy patterns, it is possible for your life to be radically different. I know that this is possible because I’ve lived it. When we feel stuck in behaviours and beliefs that create emotional pain, that is the opportunity and calling from our authentic self, heart, and soul to heal.
If this is the time for you to confront an unhealthy relationship to food and your body, then seeking the support of a qualified therapist can help you to find freedom and peace with yourself.
Taking the time to invest in your well-being will allow you to come to know and understand yourself better. You will feel more compassion for yourself and learn techniques that will serve you throughout your life. If you are ready to commit to understanding, then changing the role that food and exercise play in your life then…your life can be radically different.
I combine body-oriented psychotherapy and wellness counselling to help you reconnect to your body’s inner voice and knowledge. I will work with you to increase your self-esteem and self-acceptance.
When you change your relationship to food and your body through self-awareness and self-respect you build trust in yourself .
Knowing and Trusting Yourself can bring about:
- Confidence and being at peace with yourself
- Feeling calm, and more grounded.
- Clarity in relationships and career decisions.
- Better sleep
- More time and energy to pursue goals and interests.
- Having more authentic energy to give to your children and spouse.
You will be more spontaneous and enjoy life because:
- You can start the day without planning around food and exercise.
- You can focus on the people and activities that bring you pleasure and fun.
- Social occasions and vacations can be enjoyed without worrying about your appearance or what to eat.
If this is the time for you to end your battle and make peace with your body, then click to book a complimentary consultation.